Tuesday, September 27, 2005


I am going to come across as being oh so bitchy after people read this.

Let me explain that I am a friendly person. I chat with strangers on the T. I smile a lot. I like people.

Though I don't really care for people who assume too much based on a working relationship. I have made very good friends out of people I work with, but this is something that happens over longish periods of time, after professional conversation develops into banter, which develops into personal conversation.

Meaning after only working with someone for a couple of weeks, I don't have any real desire to hear about their nights at bars/fights/melodramatic relationship issues with/about people I don't know and will never meet. Especially when I'm expected to give advice.

When I’m working, I like to focus on the task at hand. That way I do a good job, and when my shift ends I can get to my real life knowing I was productive and not a waste of my company's money and my own time. I am good at my retail job. I am organized, efficient, and great with customers.

I do not need the distraction of hearing another story about a bunch of strangers, what was text messaged to whom at what club when I’m trying to reorganize the stockroom or figure out how many jars of arnica massage oil we have left.

Conversations I have with co workers tend to run along the lines of “How are the understocks looking?” “Are we low on Tea Tree oil?” and “What did our district manager say about the offsite storage unit?”. Boring, work related stuff. With a few of them it's small conversations about things I know we already have in common. "Oh, I have been to that restaurant. I love their Stuffed Beef Tenderloin. Have you had their Tiramisu?"

I realize that these people have a need to talk to someone and feel validated, but I have nothing to offer them. We have nothing in common save the place we work, I don’t know their friends, and I barely know them. Also were I actually to give advice, it wouldn’t be well accepted. It would sound like “Talk to him like the 30 year old you are and not like a college freshman, tell him to grow up and be honest, and if he can’t do that, get a new friend.” Or "You really should ask someone who's closer to both of you."


I sound pretty cold hearted, huh? I'm really not...ask these guys.

Maybe it’s just been a long day...


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